Sunday, December 28, 2014
Beginning the Annual Year End Review
I have been reflecting on 2014, a year of good times and disappointments, as all of them are. For the past two years my New Year's 'resolution' has been to have ridiculous amounts of fun and the Best Year Ever. It's worked pretty well for me and there have been lots of laughs. But since my birthday this year when I turned Really Old, I have been more pensive about it all. Daylight is burning, I can feel the heat, and I need to think about what things are still important to do. I am content with who I am, thank goodness, and my life is a good one, but there are lots of things left to do to make it even better. I realize, a little late, that I have been far too reclusive in my life, and it is much harder at this point, especially given my definite preferences in people, to find the kinds of friends who would fill the bill. I have a family I adore and one friend who brings great joy into my life but I can hardly expect them to fill every minute and the bulk of my time is spent alone. But it does no good to brood over what I would have done differently (more children! more friends!) if I had it to do all over again. And besides, old or not, I am having more fun than ever before in my life. So . . .
I don't want to get caught up in regretting the past or dreading the future. What I have is today, and so I am thinking this week about where to put my energy going forward. I want to learn some new skills and do some new things, and it would be nice if they added bonus friends to my life. What could I get pretty good at in a year if I started now? Learning something new is good for the soul and often leads to meeting new people. And since I would like to quit working in the next year or so, I really need to build a structure that will enrich my mind and my time going forward.
My brother suggested learning to pilot a plane, but I am deterred by cost and my own fears. Scuba is a possibility - despite the cost - but my doctor insists that I not consider it until I take a stress test, which I expect to do this spring. I am thinking of buying a mountain dulcimer, an instrument I played in college about a million years ago, but that is also slightly pricey and (worse) would most likely end up being another solitary activity. I will probably buy a new sewing machine at some point -- I'm still having too many tension troubles with my old one -- and there will be classes to take if I do that, to hone my pitiful sewing skills, but sewing is rarely a group activity either.
Next year I will continue to find time for the things I already like do, amateur radio, search and rescue, Morse Code, sewing and crafting and cooking. I will certainly try to fish and kayak and hike more, whether alone or with people, outdoorsy things are very satisfying activities, mentally and physically. And I am thinking about planning a trip. I would be a solo traveler and know I do not much like to travel alone so I am considering a tour of some kind. If I could find an interesting place where I could also do or learn something interesting that would be a bonus. I might just write whatever ideas I come up with and decide by a blind draw. Because really, it doesn't make much difference what I choose, it just matters that I do something.
So I have much to look forward to. But I am open to new ideas about things new to me, and hoping that someone out there will introduce me to thoughts that will lead me into uncharted territory -- Do you have any ideas to throw into the hopper? What should go on my list?