Monday, September 9, 2013
So Very Lucky
People
know, when they enter Hospice, that their time is limited, and they
react in a variety of ways. Most times, when I visit a couple,
the spouse will be fluttering around, trying to be useful, or will
withdraw from the room to be out of my way. The patient will want
to talk about themselves and what they've done, and will often refuse
to talk at all about anything significant. A lot of people put a
lot of effort into acting as though absolutely nothing has changed.
This couple was different. Although my visit was expected, I felt
as though I were intruding on a sacred, private moment. Their
faces were peaceful and calm, and they sat looking into each others
eyes as if there wasn't a moment to waste. Even as we talked they could barely look away from one
another, as if memorizing the features of their loved one's face.
Only a few days later, after he died, I called the wife to express my
condolences. I told her how precious I had found their appreciation
of the other. I know, she said. I miss him so much but I can't
stop thinking, I am so very lucky.
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1 comment:
OMG - I have so much admiration for what you do. You honestly made me cry with this post because that is how my husband and I would be - just staring at each other. Sigh.
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